This is part of a series about the coaching process with the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship, in which you will find reflections from coaches on the benefits of taking part in the coaching process. Read part 1 of this series here.
A state of overwhelm — On not letting life get the best of me
By Beth Kennett
I just made my drive into the office and now I sit at my desk fighting away feelings of overwhelm. I know I am not in this place alone!
Some days, I find myself caught up in a state of reacting to all of the things that want my attention. Today, I am wrestling with that. I know this is not the best use of who I am, to wrestle with the overwhelming state of life; yet, sometimes it knocks me over before I realize it.
When I am able to acknowledge that I am feeling overwhelmed, I am able to pause, check in and begin to get myself back on the path of living in a more balanced and healthy manner. The reality is that many people depend on me, just as many people depend on you. If I am not functioning fully from who I am, as the person that God has created and is creating me to be, then I am not able to be stable enough for others to depend on me. This is precisely what the airline stewards tell us on an airplane, “…in the event of a loss of cabin pressure, the oxygen masks will drop from the overhead bin; first, place the oxygen mask on your face before attempting to offer assistance to those around you.”
I must be grounded and present in who I am and in what I am able to do. In this centered and embracing balance, I can be available to be supportive of those around me. It is when we lose this sense of balance, when we lose the sense of being centered, that we feel the pressures of life and feel overwhelmed. It is when this sense of balance slips away that life begins to get the best of us.
Working with a coach can offer a solid path of living fully from who we are. Working with a coach can assist any individual in creating a solid space of balance. If you are experiencing overwhelm from the crazy chaos that is life, I encourage you to find a coach.
Coaching without wearing shorts
By Charles Fuller
Personal coaching. Life coaching. Sounds like a fad. Sounds like something that will fade away once the next fad comes along. Ten years ago I would have been one of the people saying those kinds of things. After all, I was a tenured university professor and dean. I was supposed to be cynical about everything. Personal coaching? Really?
Then I found out what coaching really is. Upon the encouragement of a trusted friend I read a book and went to a two-day workshop. I learned that personal coaching is a process shared by two people that can help unlock a person’s deepest giftedness. I learned that it’s a way for God to use deep community to do incredible things for his people.
I’m now a personal coach. I don’t wear shorts for coaching sessions. I don’t ask you to lift weights or workout on a machine. I ask questions. When I do it well, they are curious questions. When I do it really well, my clients pause for a minute and then say: “That’s a good question!” “I’ve never thought of it that way before!” “Let me think about that for a minute.”
Sometimes even when I don’t do it well, God helps people see themselves in a new light and guides them to greater effectiveness in the messiness we call life.
Coaching is a way to help people be more effective in their work and play, in their plans and dreams and in their thoughts and actions. Coaches provide a safe, objective, inquisitive voice that joins their clients on their individual journeys. Coaches help people unlock their God-given gifts and put them to more effective use, thus making the most of how God created them. Coaching helps people become even more of what God created them to be.
Personal coaching is an antidote for a narcissistic world that continually tells us we’re self-contained, that we can do it on our own. Personal coaching helps us see ourselves and our giftedness in a new light, unlocking those gifts for our own benefit, the benefit of others, and the benefit of God’s Kingdom. Who wouldn’t want that? Especially a believer, especially a minister. If this sounds attractive to you, seek out a coach, and encourage your minister to do the same.
The coaching process is meant to help with positive professional and personal growth and development. The process is affirming, supportive and future-oriented. Coaching works! To learn more about the coaching process through the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship for you or your church, contact Bo Prosser, CBF Coordinator of Strategic Partnerships at firstname.lastname@example.org or Harry Rowland, CBF Director of Missional Congregations email@example.com.