By Andy Hale
What’s your go-to answer when someone asks how you are doing? It’s probably either “good” or “fine.”
How many of us are actually “good” or “fine” when we are asked? Most days, I am a wide range of either “hitting on all cylinders…feet don’t fail me now” or “I just don’t have enough time in the day.”
Why are we all too willing to lie to people? Is it because we do not think that they want to know our difficult emotions? And if we are not honest with others, are we genuinely being honest with ourselves?
For many of us that grew up in the Church, we inherited a culture that wasn’t necessarily equipped to prepare people to deal with their emotions. Instead, depending on your faith tradition, the church might have trained you to spiritually bypass our difficult emotions.
“It’s when we dole out Christian platitudes and expect the recipient of these easier-said-than-done words to bounce right back into contentment and happiness. It’s the equivalent of slapping a fresh cut with a bandage and hoping that any signs of infection will resolve without additional effort. We, and our emotions, deserve better,” said Dr. Peace Amadi on the CBF Podcast.
We sat down with the associate professor of psychology and counseling, along with a professor of leadership, at Hope International University. She is the author of a new book, Why Do I Feel Like This? Understanding Your Difficult Emotions and Find Grace to Move Through.
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Andy Hale is the creator and host of the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship Podcast. Hale is the senior pastor of University Baptist Church of Baton Rouge, Louisiana, following eight years as the founding pastor of Mosaic Church of Clayton and five years as CBF’s church start specialist. Follow on Twitter @haleandy