By Andy Hale
If we are willing to admit it, there are some of us who read quite a few books in the 1990s and early 2000s on relationships, marriage and gender. The theme from most of these books was something along the lines of every man, deep down, is a warrior inside, and every woman is a princess waiting to be saved.
Of course, this wasn’t true then, and it isn’t true now! But, it should explain a lot that many of these opinions were written by men about women.
For many of us that grew up in the Evangelical tradition, the definition of marriage and gender roles was just as predictable as most churches singing the latest Michael W. Smith or Chris Tomlin song in their contemporary worship service.
Sit the problematic views of Evangelical writers on marriage and gender roles to the side, picking up the Scriptures instead. Unfortunately, you will also find toxic models of masculinity and relationships. Just think about that Warrior-King that all men are deep down inside, David. This guy was verbally and emotionally abusive to his first wife, Michal, while committing an act of sexual assault against Bathsheba, putting a hit on her husband and forcing her into marriage.
As the mantel of toxic masculinity is crumbling, how do we define what it means to be male absent from such it?
We sat down with acclaimed marriage author Gary Thomas to discuss the struggle to redefine marriage and gender roles among Evangelicals. Gary is the author of the best-selling book, The Sacred Marriage.
Considering our expanding understanding of marriage and gender, we asked Gary to consider how his definition and understanding of these things has changed over the last three decades of writing.
While the CBF Podcast strives to facilitate a conversation from a broad theological perspective, it does not mean we endorse the views shared by guests on the platform.
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Andy Hale is the creator and host of the Cooperative Baptist Fellowship Podcast. Hale is the senior pastor of University Baptist Church of Baton Rouge, Louisiana, following eight years as the founding pastor of Mosaic Church of Clayton and five years as CBF’s church start specialist. Follow on Twitter @haleandy